Seriously, People Have Said This To Us, Vol. 2

Following is a list of statements that people have in some manner communicated to us in the year following the death of our Daughter.  Seriously. You both have had enough things that are out of your control. I am here when you are ready.  Whatever you need… Give yourselves some credit.   The love within your family…

The Terror of Knowing

When someone looks at me, they don’t see a woman who is screaming.  They don’t see a woman who wants to tear her skin off.  They don’t see a woman who is tortured by a single word, why?  I just look like a woman.  The pain I carry with me does not have an off switch. …

Worth It

I want to know what happened to my daughter. You can’t pretend you know what happened to my daughter, because I don’t know what happened to my daughter.   Stop pretending you know what happened.  And stop pretending it is ridiculous that I want to find out what happened.  My motivation is not hurt feelings.  It is…

It’s Not

It’s not self-indulgence. It’s not stubborness. It’s not grouchiness. It’s not selfishness. It’s not self-pity. It’s not over-reacting. It’s grief. My daughter died. Everything has changed. Forever. It doesn’t matter if you agree. It doesn’t matter if you understand. It doesn’t matter if you believe me. My daughter died. Everything has changed. Forever. It won’t…

It’s Getting Harder

Sometimes, she almost feels like a dream, like I imagined her, but she was real.  She was here.  She lived.  It has been just over a year since we lost her.  As the one-year mark approached, I felt that something was coming.  I knew something would be different.  I didn’t know what.  The fear of…

Proverbs

  I know how to fish. I have been fishing for a long time and all by myself too. I just can’t fish right now. There are obstacles and challenges in my life that do not allow me to fish. I fully understand what it means to fish, why it’s a good thing to fish,…